Monday, December 3, 2007

Sleeping arrangements answered

This post is for Jeni, specifically. Thank you so much for asking how things are going with Evan's sleep habits. I haven't logged onto my blog since my last post so this response is a little late.
Things are getting better, but very slowly.

Ever since we first started putting Evan in his nursery to sleep (when he was 6 months old), I have been crystal clear that we need to let him self soothe as much as possible so he can sleep by himself. Scott has always had a problem with this concept. Evan's cries hit Scott in a primal way and he will even go so far as to get him in the middle of the night and not realize he's doing it. It's some kind of sleepwalking thing. That's not always the case, but when he's really tired he'll do that. The other times, he just convinces himself that something is really wrong with Evan (like maybe a scorpion bite, or diarrhea, etc.) and goes in there to get him.

Our relationship has been having some problems lately and this is definitely exacerbating it. Since I put the toddler bed in Evan's room, Scott has been relegated to the guest room for most nights. It's farther away from Evan and he turns on the Air Conditioning to drown out the noise. This has helped a lot--but only when Scott is in the guest room. A few days of he guest room and he's back saying he will stay out of Evan's room and moves back into our room. Evan has gotten a lot better about staying asleep in his bed but he tends to wake up at least once and cries out but goes back to sleep. It is not a big deal, but if Scott is in the master bedroom, he gets up and does the WRONG thing again.

At this point, I want Scott to stay in the guest room indefinitely. Unfortunately, it seems to make life easier on Evan and me.

1 comment:

Jeni Q said...

Ah, what a struggle! You make such a good case for what you're trying to do. I imagine that must be very frustrating. :(